Hey Everyone

This is certainly not a makeup or skin care post as this is about something a lot more important “LIFE”

We often come across situations in life “where we get a spectacle of whether we should listen to our self or to others as they could be more experienced or more mature.

So, let’s jump directly into the five most common mistakes we make in our life.

Forcing yourself to say yes or no

Why do we have to make a decision when we feel we are not ready. Why can’t we just say I am not ready to say anything at the moment. Taking your own time to make the decisions of your life is not only something you should do but also you deserve the right to do. Try practising this once and you will immediately feel your life in your control and not others.W e often make decisions in hurry either under influence of others or under pressure of the situation. But trust me it is going to be a regret later in life.

The best decisions of your life would be the ones taken under no influence. 

 

Looking out for others to motivate you

The only way you will truly get motivated is if the motivation comes from within yourself. If you are willing to change. If you think you can change. Then only there is going to be a change. We often look at some motivational videos and quotes and start feeling great (not that they are useless but they can only temporarily generate the feeling of confidence and strength)but for how long??

You will realize the very next day or even an hour later you will be the same person feeling shitty about your situation complaining about your life. right?

So what do we do?

The answer is simple. We need to motivate ourself by looking at ourself, not others. Just look into the mirror and ask yourself, were u this miserable few years back? Did u make such a big mistake that life can’t give you another chance? Did u kill someone? If you answer NO to these then you must change and stop feeling the way you feel. As you a human and humans make mistakes and learn.

You deserve happiness as much as others do. Go out, work out, make out whatever makes you happy do it.

 Opening in front of everyone at the wrong time/Trusting everyone easily

As humans, it is important for us to trust people in order to form relations with them and in order to survive. We cannot trust anyone and be alone as it might make you an extremely low and negative person.

But being selective in deciding whom to trust and whom to share your personal things with is extremely vital. In this occasion, we normally leak our most private information while we are depressed and we tend to call others and share everything.

When you are depressed, you are most vulnerable, as you give the best chance to others to know everything that they are not supposed to know.

The best thing to do in this scenario is to take your time, talk to your best mate or your family or if you can just listen to some music or go for a walk. Spend time with yourself digesting what just happened and then decide the people who must know everything.

 Trying to please the people around you

Not that you need to go against them or not listen to them but do not make decisions about your life which are based on the fact that they will make your family and friends happy. With experience I can tell so many times I take decisions thinking what others would expect me to do in this certain situation and I do it. It might not give us happiness but it makes us feel obedient. however, such decisions can also make you blame and complain others later in life for no reason as what you did you did as you liked.

I can’t go to a club what will they think? They don’t expect that from me.

I can’t watch a movie alone in the cinema what will others think?

 Being always available

Being helpful is great and you must help others in their thick and thin. But being available to everyone every time shows low self-esteem, low self-respect and also low self-love. It is important to make others realise that you have own priorities in life and that you are not just a call away every time. You must also check in this situation if in past you needed them and they gave priority to their piece of work.

People might misunderstand your generosity of being available every time as your low life and might take you for Granted. 

Lastly, in life, it is extremely important to differentiate the times when to say Yes and when to say No.  Just as important as saying Yes is, it is equally important to say No to things which make you feel uncomfortable stressed and pressurised.XOXO